我的存在

原本的我,根本不知道什麼是 Kübler-Ross model. 但由於它不斷地出現在不同的影集中,且出現次數之頻繁,讓我不得不開始對它留下深刻的印象! 先簡單介紹一下, Kübler-Ross model 也稱 five stages of grief. 故名思義,它講的是人在遇到哀痛時,所會經歷的五個階段. 這個 model 是 Elisabeth Kübler-Ross 於1969 年時,在她的書"On Death and Dying"中所提出的. 而她是一位出生於瑞士的 psychiatrist.

Five stages of grief 分別為: 1.Denial, 2.Anger, 3.Bargaining, 4.Depression, & 5.Acceptance.   Elisabeth Kübler-Ross 說並不是所有人都會照上列的順序來經歷這五個階段,但所有人至少會經歷其中的任兩個階段,而且有可能在此兩種階段當中,來來回回地做切換.

The Simpson, season 2 的 episode 11 "One Fish, Two Fish, Blowfish, Blue Fish"中,透過 doctor 和 Homer 的對話,將 Kübler-Ross model 用簡單明瞭,且幽默的方式表達出來. (雖然和原版有些微不同)

Dr. Hibbert: Now, a little death anxiety is normal. You can expect to go through five stages.

Dr. Hibbert: The first is denial.

Homer: No way! Because I'm not dying! [hugs Marge]

Dr. Hibbert: The second is anger.

Homer: Why you little! [steps towards Dr. Hibbert]

Dr. Hibbert: After that comes fear.

Homer: What's after fear? What's after fear? [cringes]

Dr. Hibbert: Bargaining.

Homer: Doc, you gotta get me out of this! I'll make it worth your while!

Dr. Hibbert: Finally, acceptance.

Homer: Well, we all gotta go sometime.

Dr. Hibbert: Mr. Simpson, your progress astounds me.

除此之外, Kübler-Ross model 在許多美國影集中都被拿來引用. 例如 Drop Dead Diva, season 1 的 episode 1 "Pilot"中, Grayson Kent (Jackson Hurst 飾) 在他女友 Deb Dobkins (Brooke D'Orsay 飾) 的 funeral 上的致詞,就是用 Kübler-Ross model 來作為開頭.

Grayson: People say there are five stages of grief: denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance.

Well, I can't get past my anger. Standing here today, I can't help but remember Deb's first words to me... "Are you seriously trying to pull off acid-washed jeans? " 

She changed my life. She gave me something to look forward to at the end of each day. Deb taught me to listen to my heart.

She was sweet and kind and unselfish.  And in the worst of times, she could make me laugh. And without her...life will never be the same.

還有 Grey's Anatomy, season 6 的 episode 1 "Good Mourning",女主角 Meredith Grey (Ellen Pompeo 飾) 因為片頭一開始 George O'Malley (T. R. Knight 飾) 搶救不治,而所做的開場白.

Meredith: According to Elisabeth Kubler-Ross, when we're dying or have suffered a catastrophic loss, we all move through five distinct stages of grief.

We go into denial because the loss is so unthinkable we can't imagine it's true.

We become angry with everyone, angry with survivors, angry with ourselves.

Then we bargain. We beg. We plead. We offer everything we have, we offer our souls in exchange for just one more day.

When the bargaining has failed and the anger is too hard to maintain, we fall into depression, despair, until finally we have to accept that we've done everything we can.

We let go. We let go and move into acceptance.

連最近上演的 Nikita 也簡短地提到這個理論,不過只有提到頭和尾而已. 這一幕出現在 season 1 的 episode 7 "The Recruit" 中. 當 Michael (Shane West 飾) 和 Birkhoff (Aaron Stanford 飾) 都以為 Nikita (Maggie Q 飾) 已經死掉時所做的對話.

Birkhoff: Denial is the first stage of grief, my brother.

Michael: That last?

Birkhoff: Acceptance. I guess I've accepted it. Maybe you should, too.